Relationships, Sex and Love
The Issues of the Heart..!
This is a specialised area of work and usually needs a lot of wosdom and psychological understanding to bring any real help to reslove issues that hurt and wound us deeply.
Relationships
Relationships are very difficult to work out sometimes and it is like a jigsaw puzzle and sometimes we cannot work something outr becuase pieces of the jigsaw are missing...
Sex
Sex, Yes please, some may say...But 'acting out' in personal sexuality, or promiscuity, is often an expression of something underlying and mysterious. Humans are meant to be in a monogamous relationship according to Biblical and cultural principles of westernised society today. And we acknowledge that extreme promiscuous behaviour can even be a form of sexual addiction and it can be seen even in the desire for various forms of pornography, or actual sexual conquests.
It can be a simple form of desire for affirmation, or approval from the prospective partner, the acknowledgement of attraction and admiration can be seen by a needy person as love rather than sex, and is common in those who have unmet childhood needs and the accompanying and affirming expressions of love towards them. It is therefore treatable to have more control over it, once it is established where it comes from and there are methods to sublimate the needs and may be established with patients.
It is often affected by emotions and it can often be affected by problems within a specific relationship/type of relationship drawn to, or even outside of relationship in promiscuity,or when unable to perform different acts, due to blockages, or when a person does not allow oneself to experience the joys of sex in an uninhibited way.
The old saying that most marriage problems stem from the bedroom, has a ring of truth to the common sense wisdom of the day, And the truth is, most sexual problems within a marriage are either love addict/love avoidant oriented or pscho-symptomatic, but can also be sexual orientation problems, or medical conditions. Some issues may be helped with a specialist in Sex therapy. This also may need work for both sexes.
Transgender, or gay and lesbian clients may wish to explore their sexuality with us at deeper emotional levels, prior to clinical operations, or irreversible decisions taken, whilst in an emotionally charged state of mind; often these areas can be slowed down for safety sake, simply to ensure the right decisons are taken as a duty of care of the pateint.
Love & Pain
When we experience hurt, perhaps by the rejection from a loved one, or perhaps the loss of a loved one through accident or worse, or an illnesss that takes away their human dignity and functional capacities, we experience feelings in the heart.
Those feelings are often quite extraordinarily painfull to bear and can need some extra help to deal with. There is no shame in asking for help whenever you feel you really need it.
Divorce and Separation from a loved one, or even an untimely Death, can be so destructive and painfull. The tragic effects to a person in that scenario, we find, is that the wrench in their heart can be so powerfull and destructive, that they may even, lose the will, or desire to live.
We wish to alleviate some of that pain here at Talk Therapy by offering ways to try to control the pain and may simply help to try to make life bearable, while a person mends and repairs the Ego and emotional life.
Remember... whatever the problem psychologically, there are usually always fast solutions to help to lessen, or in some cases, even remove the pain and move on in life... to find a better way for the future... if it works out to be a slow prcess nothing is lost